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Hi everyone; hope you had a fantastic Christmas and New Year despite the weather. I guess plenty of us will have made New Year’s resolutions; some of us will keep to them but I suspect some of us will have broken them by the end of January. Mine this year is to lose a stone at least for my wedding in July so I can fit into a wedding dress that doesn’t make me look like the mother of the bride…

I have done some research into the history of New Year’s resolutions; interestingly it appears to originate with the giving gifts and I suppose a New Year’s resolution is the gift of a second chance; to wipe the slate clean and to start again - maybe having learned not to make the same mistakes as the previous year!

The tradition of the New Year’s Resolution goes all the way back to 153 B.C. and the Roman god; Janus. With two faces, Janus could look back on past events and forward to the future. The Romans named the first month of the year after Janus, the god of beginnings and the guardian of doors and entrances. At midnight on December 31st the Romans imagined Janus looking back at the old year and forward to the new. The Romans began a tradition of exchanging gifts on New Year’s Eve by giving one another branches from sacred trees for good fortune. Later, nuts or coins imprinted with the god Janus became more common New Year’s gifts.

The key to making a New Year’s resolution and keeping it is... identifying that there is something in your life that needs to change in the first place. It could be to give up smoking, stop spending ludicrous amounts on shoes or being repeatedly attracted to the wrong type of person. If you don’t acknowledge there is a problem; you can’t solve it. Firstly identify the thing you want to change this year, one resolution at a time. The second step is to set reasonable goals, creating manageable targets to work towards and rewarding yourself along the way.

Before you start; write down the resolution you wish to make and record how you think you can achieve it. You may need to consult a professional such as a life coach or a doctor; maybe you could do some research yourself either reading or on the internet. The research in itself can be one of your goals so when you have completed it, give yourself a pat on the back. Creating smaller manageable tasks will give you a sense of achievement and make your resolution feel real; not just something you have plucked from the air.

Make a chart with the different steps marked out and set a reward by each task and tick them off as you go. In no time you will have plenty of ticks on your chart that you can feel proud of; this will give you the
confidence to keep going and you will be able to look back and see what you have already achieved.

If you would like some advice or help on setting and keeping your New Year’s Resolution please give me a call. 07540 802 118 Take care. Lynette